Comments on: Compassion’s pain http://www.agirlintheworld.com/2010/07/compassions-pain.html Finding Wisdom, Courage and Grace on the road less traveled. Fri, 27 Jan 2012 07:11:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: Denise http://www.agirlintheworld.com/2010/07/compassions-pain.html#comment-102 Denise Wed, 04 Aug 2010 11:43:13 +0000 http://www.agirlintheworld.com/?p=1363#comment-102 Tania, thank you for your note. It's so touching. I can't imagine how those weeks were with your Mom in the hospital. You have her unwavering strength. I can feel it. I think it's very noble that you've chosen to take up nursing. I am always so amazed at how nurses are able to make such a difference in the lives of people. Their role is to comfort and choosing a vocation where you can give of yourself everyday is a real gift. People search their whole lives for purpose but I think as a nurse, that need to feel a hole isn't there because you are already giving so much of yourself (something that we all want to be able to do, deep down inside). I know that Tita Remi is with you always, in every moment. She lives in you. And though sometimes there are no answers or explanations in this world for things that happen, I think the best that we can do is to trust and live our lives to the fullest of our potential. Whenever I feel anxious or hopeless, I always remember one of my favourite poems: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference." --Reinhold Niebuhr, The Serenity Prayer Sending you lots of love Tania! A great big hug and kiss from across the miles. Denise Tania, thank you for your note. It’s so touching. I can’t imagine how those weeks were with your Mom in the hospital. You have her unwavering strength. I can feel it. I think it’s very noble that you’ve chosen to take up nursing. I am always so amazed at how nurses are able to make such a difference in the lives of people. Their role is to comfort and choosing a vocation where you can give of yourself everyday is a real gift. People search their whole lives for purpose but I think as a nurse, that need to feel a hole isn’t there because you are already giving so much of yourself (something that we all want to be able to do, deep down inside).

I know that Tita Remi is with you always, in every moment. She lives in you. And though sometimes there are no answers or explanations in this world for things that happen, I think the best that we can do is to trust and live our lives to the fullest of our potential. Whenever I feel anxious or hopeless, I always remember one of my favourite poems:

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.” –Reinhold Niebuhr, The Serenity Prayer

Sending you lots of love Tania! A great big hug and kiss from across the miles.
Denise

]]> By: Tania Zuniga http://www.agirlintheworld.com/2010/07/compassions-pain.html#comment-101 Tania Zuniga Tue, 03 Aug 2010 10:35:35 +0000 http://www.agirlintheworld.com/?p=1363#comment-101 Hi Denise, It still amazes me how you put your thoughts into words. Felt kind of teary while reading your experience. I hated hospitals too. But my Mama made it such a wonderful experience for me because, almost comforting. She always kept her big smile despite so much pain. I've chosen the path of nursing. For the month and a half I've been around her and seen what life and death is, I overcame my fear of the hospital, especially the smell. It's not fair cancer took my Mama away. And I'm left with an unanswerable question, "why her?" I saw her fight 'till her last breath, but there's only so much doctor's can do and then someone up there takes over. You have such a big heart. Learn to let go and just reach out. When my Mama was in the hospital, she enjoyed the littlest things other people did for her. Thoughtful notes, fresh flowers, crying calls from your Mom, and most especially, SMILES. :) I hope the boy is feeling better. I pray for good health and happy days. Much love and warm hugs, Tania :) Hi Denise,

It still amazes me how you put your thoughts into words. Felt kind of teary while reading your experience. I hated hospitals too. But my Mama made it such a wonderful experience for me because, almost comforting. She always kept her big smile despite so much pain. I’ve chosen the path of nursing. For the month and a half I’ve been around her and seen what life and death is, I overcame my fear of the hospital, especially the smell. It’s not fair cancer took my Mama away. And I’m left with an unanswerable question, “why her?” I saw her fight ’till her last breath, but there’s only so much doctor’s can do and then someone up there takes over.

You have such a big heart. Learn to let go and just reach out. When my Mama was in the hospital, she enjoyed the littlest things other people did for her. Thoughtful notes, fresh flowers, crying calls from your Mom, and most especially, SMILES. :)

I hope the boy is feeling better. I pray for good health and happy days.

Much love and warm hugs,
Tania :)

]]> By: Mama http://www.agirlintheworld.com/2010/07/compassions-pain.html#comment-100 Mama Thu, 29 Jul 2010 20:00:17 +0000 http://www.agirlintheworld.com/?p=1363#comment-100 Dearest Den, Next time, follow your heart... even if it ends up disappointing you (like getting a negative reaction from the other person). I think the key in a situation like this is to approach cautiously, ask if it's OK to intrude and just show your concern. I would say majority of the time your positive intent will be appreciated. For now, say a prayer for the lady. Let your angels take your message of love and concern for her and be at peace that she will be alright. Thank you for sharing this experience. It is a reminder that everyday we should put effort and time to shower love, concern, understanding and support to others. We can start at home, with our own love ones, even if they seem to have a lot of it already. Sending you and G lots of love, hugs and kisses. BIG HUG! Mama Dearest Den,
Next time, follow your heart… even if it ends up disappointing you (like getting a negative reaction from the other person). I think the key in a situation like this is to approach cautiously, ask if it’s OK to intrude and just show your concern. I would say majority of the time your positive intent will be appreciated.
For now, say a prayer for the lady. Let your angels take your message of love and concern for her and be at peace that she will be alright.
Thank you for sharing this experience. It is a reminder that everyday we should put effort and time to shower love, concern, understanding and support to others. We can start at home, with our own love ones, even if they seem to have a lot of it already.
Sending you and G lots of love, hugs and kisses.
BIG HUG!
Mama

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