A Girl in the World

November 2009

An evening at the milonga

November 28, 2009

There is no better way to experience authentic porteño life than to go to a milonga to watch the locals tango.  I wish I could describe this place: on some non-descript street just off Avenida 9 Julio, we walked into a grande tea room that was probably something magnificent in its height during the 1910′s.  Dark wood walls and furniture, ornate gas lamps hanging off tall marble columns and old fashioned fans hanging from the walls.  It was like traveling back in time into an old Italian mob movie.  I half expected men in fedora hats, joints in their mouths, to walk down the winding staircase.

The band played.  And couples old and young tangoed counterclockwise on the low lit dance floor, swaying and swishing their way across the marble.  I couldn’t help but feel goosebumps.  This was hardcore.  Where else do you find 80 year old men partying away at 2am on some dodgy street in the center of town?  This was passion, tradition, pride, talent.  Being there felt somewhat intrusive, like I was a fan at some spectator sport who didn’t belong.  Even after our two hour tango lesson last week, I felt like I didn’t know enough about the history and technicalities of the dance to have earned the right to watch, like a voyeur, this very private expression of courtship.

People have always described tango as the vertical expression of the horizontal desire.  Ahem. I never quite understood what this meant until now.  It really is the most sensual dance ever.  Each culture has some form of mating ritual, originating in dance.  This is Buenos Aires’ version.  And in my opinion, it tops all others.  I’ve salsa’d and samba’d and forro’d my way across many dance floors before.  Sexy and provocative, these dances are fun exactly because they are so open and carefree in structure and technicalities.  But compared to tango, they feel like the cheap streetwalker’s version of vertical courtship.   Whereas salsa oozes sex, tango implies it.  It’s the tension and the tease, the hard and the soft, the sweet affection and bitter frustration all at once.  And I couldn’t help but feel a little uncomfortable watching these couples, cheek to cheek, so lost in their own worlds.  It felt like being privy to a private moment that I really had no right to observe, let alone enjoy.  Like a shared form of foreplay, being in the huge, dimly lit room, band playing, couples swaying, was hot and heavy and sensual.  Phew.  I need a cold shower.  =)

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Most thankful

November 26, 2009

For the love of family, true friendship and good health. Happy thanksgiving from Bear and I!

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You know that "wind knocked out of you" feeling that you get when you step into a sauna for the first time after taking a cold shower?  Well, that's what it feels like to walk outside today.  IT IS HOT AND HUMID HERE.  Sticky and wet.  The air is heavy and damp.  There is no breeze or sun or rain.  Just a muggy sticky air that engulfs the entire city.  I cannot deal!  

We are hiding in the flat, with the air conditioner blasting, watching the Travel Channel and eating cookies.  The malls are open until 4 AM every night from now until Christmas.  Maybe we'll go over to Alto Palermo later tonight.  

For now, I am happy to sit at home – dry, cool and comfy.  I miss mild breezy San Francisco.  =)

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Camping on the Ngorogoro crater rim

We camped on the rim of the Ngorogoro crater enroute to our safari in Tanzania. It was the coldest night of the month-long trip. The showers were freezing, the wind was cold and I couldn’t keep warm that entire evening. I was up most of the night shivering into the cold tent, listening to our zebra neighbours munching grass just beside my head. This is wild Africa. No fences, no guards – just open wild beauty. We told stories around the campfire while just a few feet away, the zebras munched away at their dinner. Just amazing.

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We celebrated the boy’s dad’s birthday this weekend in Mar del Plata.  And it was wonderful.  Great learning, great family time, great food and lots of laughter.   I spoke more Spanish in the last two days than I have in the last 20 days of being here.  It is AMAZING how human beings can communicate across languages simply based on context, body language and hand gestures.  Of course, I am exaggerating a little, because really, everyone was so very very patient with me and my broken Castellano.  But Castellano it was!  And it was SO MUCH FUN!

There is something wonderful about watching people in family gatherings that really pulls at my heartstrings.  It is so nice.  There was so much love there this weekend.  So much affection, and laughter and togetherness.  The looooong table was dressed in red accents and picadas were strewn down it’s length.  We had empanadas galore, with Malbec and champagne and beers.  I think I may have gained a good couple of kilos just from that meal alone.  30+ people sitting all together toasting happy birthdays, singing songs, drinking and eating.  It was wonderful.  And for a short moment, I wanted to have 10 kids just so we could all eat at a big table like that every night for dinner (but thankfully, the moment passed!).  FOUR generations sat in that room.  FOUR.  And it was nice to see how they all interacted with each other, conversation and laughter emanating from all sides.

If you could imagine how crazy it all felt for me, trying to catch conversations, decipher tenses and accents and context all at once.  My brain was alert, tired, on overdrive but my heart was bursting with joy.  I didn’t have to know the language precisely to see that conversations were about the baby, about interesting news, about updates and jokes and all things so normal between aunts, cousins, grandparents and children.  In the grand scheme of things, it was OK that my Castellano was broken and the words didn’t come out just right.  In the end, I understood all the important parts: love, laughter, family and friendship.

[Feliz cumpleaño señor G!]

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Hallelujah.  Is. My. New. Favourite. Word.

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It is pronounced ahhlehloooshaaa here.  Can you believe it?!  Say it with me now:

AHHHHHLEHHHHLOOOOOSHAAAAAA!

Is that not the MOST FUN word ever?!  Ever?!

Couple it with The Weather Girls’ “It’s Raining Men” and you’ve got yourself one of my most memorable moments from the weekend.  We were out with friends at a new bar in Mar del Plata, in the kind of place that plays gringo music early in the evening before it gets crowded.  Everything from The Beach Boys, to Guns & Roses, to Shania Twain (yes, really).  One friend is basically a human jukebox.  He knows every song ever created and sings along to each one (it’s quite impressive, actually).  Besides the fact that everyone freaked out because I couldn’t differentiate between the Rolling Stones and Guns & Roses, and because I have no clue who Freddie Mercury is, it was an interesting night.  J (the human jukebox) would sing along to every new song played, sometimes using the semantic words in Castellano to prove that he could understand the English.  Very cute.

Well, when The Weather Girls came on and he started singing “It’s raining men!  Ahlehlooshaa, it’s raining men!  Amen!”, I just about fell over myself.  It was funny and enlightening and shocking all at once.  What a hilarious twist to this song!  I used to despise it but the ahlehlooshaa made my night!  My weekend!  =D  SO GREAT!

Ha.  Maybe you just had to be there.  The smallest things amuse me, I know.  But still.  It was a moment.  Shooveeyaaa has now been replaced by ahlehlooshaa.  =)

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Big sky Africa

November 23, 2009

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A big sky in Tanzania’s Serengeti. In a quiet moment just before darkness, a herd of elephants passes us by. See the large version here.

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Sweet November

November 20, 2009

I keep playlists on YouTube and listen to them while I write. This is the cheapest form of entertainment ever. You really should consider it before going on iTunes to purchase music! Because my taste in songs changes so much, I make playlists on a per month basis now. November’s roll is a mix of high-energy-cheesy-inspiring bits from different corners of the globe. Depending on where you’re located in the world, you may or may not be able to view them all. Cross fingers! Otherwise, look them up one by one:

  • Owl City – Fireflies
  • Just Jack – Starz in their Eyes
  • The Temper Trap – Sweet Disposition
  • Single Ladies by Beyonce – Pomplamoose Music (AMAZING!)
  • Reik – Inovidable
  • Beyonce – Ego
  • Alejandro Sanz and Alicia Keys – Looking for Paradise

Enjoy!

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Absurdities exist in all cities.  There are interesting customs and laws that will amuse and boggle my mind, wherever I go.  In Cairo, whole communities live and work inside the city's largest cemetery (they call it the 'City of the Dead').  In Athens, taxi drivers can reject your request for a ride and will only take you if it's convenient for them (they also answer 'yes' with a shake of the head and 'no' with a nod).  And in many places on mainland China, coughing up a lung and spitting out a half cup’s equivalent of phlegm while walking down the street is completely normal.  

Well, in Mar del Plata, playing chicken with your life at every unmarked intersection is the way to go.  It's a different kind of thrill sport. Traffic in the world's major cities can often be deemed crazy but here, I find it ridiculous!  Only major boulevards have traffic lights and apparently there is no budget or patience or 'need' for STOP signs.  All roads are one-way and you race across them as quickly as you please while praying to God that cars traveling on perpendicular roads are more cautious than you.

You yield to oncoming traffic in the purest sense of the term:  you yield to ONCOMING traffic!  You know that car racing towards you as you escape the intersection?  Yes, THAT CAR!  Well, don't worry!  Somehow in the organized chaos of unorganized chaos, you will miss each other by a hair and in half a second you'll be safely on the other side.  Riiiigggghhttt.

This 'suerte' based system of driving is nerve wracking enough during the day, but let me tell you, do not fret, because in the evenings, it gets better!  In addition to trying to look around the corner to see if oncoming traffic is driving fast or slow, you hug the far side of the one way road, flash your lights, and honk your horn.  This is for safety.  SAFETY!  Apparently the commotion will alert others that YES, I AM COMING TO THE INTERSECTION at the same time that you are, and YES slow down a little so that we don't ALL DIE!  


Charming, isn't it?  I love small towns.

[Note:  And DJ, you are not coming down here for a visit.  And if you do, you are not allowed to drive. Ever.  Love, Ate]

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My blog – word visualized

November 19, 2009

A Girl in the World (November 18, 2009)

Apparently, I’ve been writing a lot about Spanish, Time, Work and Saturdays this past week. =) This is from a great site called Wordle, a place to make beautiful word clouds from any source, including a blog. =)

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